My wife is a faithful JW. We have 3 little kids. She accepted the fact Iam an "apostate" (formaly in, inactive) now, and is OK with that now.
We definetly do not want to get divorced...
We have an unwritten agreement: She is not seeking "help" againts me and I dont push on her my opinions. I told her, if elders will come over to our house to talk to me - I will be DF on that day. So she rather doesnt talk to the elders...
We agreed on celebrating birthdays, we just call it "aniversary". We agreed on NOT celebrating christmas, but since our JW relatives do celebrate "HAPPY DAY" one day after Christmass (and nobody has a problem with that...) we will maybe move on that....
It is a little bit more difficult with kids - our 7 years old son.
So far its more or less OK...
I have no idea what will be in 10/20 years from now, but I hope we will not be divorced.
Albert